Why women have affairs?
Talk about a loaded theme that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on from ancient times. Affairs can be burdened with troubles, cause sadness, and other problems. Also you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty matter, money, age difference, faith upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I will define an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, married dating.
Why do women have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are man seeking woman for affair. I am sure typically though it is only the human condition, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a small period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone can turn the longing on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos the world has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will defeat their doubts and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but the public too. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is extremely good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your relatives or anyone else? You will need to minimize the danger you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major group, very big in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they feel happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to look after. Your money are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them completing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair at times solves the problem while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Neglect, sadly this is a ordinary cause I fear. One or the other, frequently the gentleman is sexually neglecting his female for a number of reasons. As a man I truly am thankful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, maybe compassion is not here, maybe it is the closeness, could be neglect. Could be we have simply grown apart, our ordinary concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is contradictory of what you want. Maybe I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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